Welcome New Member, Fay Victoria Durrant, Owner of Wellness & Wilderness, Self Care for Wilder Women Online or In Person ‘Retreats in the Spanish Mountains’ – I am very excited to welcome Fay – You HAVE to look at her website!!

It is impossible to contain my excitement that Fay has joined us. We have been connected on LinkedIn for a long time and she has always supported my posts, and now she has decided to join us, which is music for my soul. What Fay has created with Wellness & Wilderness, and her story of starting this with her daughters, her challenges as a single mum, and how she didn’t give up on her dream is all inspiring. I have already signed up as a Patreon and you can too. Here is what Fay says;

Are you feeling frazzled by life the universe and everything? As parents or carers, we often tend to put our own needs last. With the best intentions, life often ends up getting in the way. This needs to change; we urgently need to put our own well-being at the top of our “To Do lists” because, what happens if we continuously don’t?

I help exhausted, overwhelmed parents to find the time for selfcare, fit in fitness, sleep better & eat better, and avoid burn out. I am passionate about this, because I learnt the hard way, what happens if you don’t. 12 years ago, I didn’t know the physical dangers of chronic stress. I had survived all the shite life had thrown at me, as well as all the self-inflicted, burning that proverbial 2 ended candle. I thought I was wonder woman. I didn’t take proper care of me. Like most folk, I didn’t realise how important it was. I thought I was indestructible. The truth was very different. I was broken and the cracks were showing. A combination trying to balance being a young lone mum, having some kind of life, working stupid hours & then an abusive relationship; had all left me chronically stressed & far more physically damaged than I realised. I ignored my body’s cries for rest. If I was tired, I fuelled myself on coffee. I continued to push myself. I retrained in my new passion, fitness. I was leaving my old life behind and I had something to prove to the world. Jan 2010. I qualified as a Personal Trainer. The next week I collapsed with severe “burn-out. I was broke and broken. The next few years were a steep learning curve. Recovery happened slowly, I had to change my planned work direction, and had to learn to accept a lot of help from some amazing people. I count my blessings daily that life has always sent me angels in human form to help when things felt like they couldn’t get much worse. All of this was preventable. I now share all that I have learnt over the years so that you don’t have to go through this . Is it time to value yourself enough to make your health &wellbeing a priority? For You, your future self & Your kids?

Take a look at Fay’s amazing website HERE

Follow Wellness y Wilderness on Instagram HERE

Like and follow Fay’s Facebook page HERE

This world would be the envy of most of us, but this is what hard work looks like – there are those who wish it would happen and those who make it happen. I know that Fay will be getting a visit from me and some SMBN members soon enough! Spanish Mountains here we come

Do you want to be a Single Mum in Business? – Check out the Salary and Job Description (and join the SMBN if this sounds like you!)

Do you want to be a Single Mum in Business? – Check out the Salary and Job Description (and join the SMBN if this sounds like you!)
Hours – 119 to 126 per week (must not expect Sundays off)
Salary – £2.30 per hour OTE £30K +
Holiday Pay – No * Sick Pay – No * Perks such as Gym Membership or Costa – No
Bank Holidays – No * Annual Leave – Sorry, No (needy springs to mind)
You must be driven, able to work autonomously, and free to carry out emergency childcare (without taking any time off) in case of pandemic, 13 weeks of school holidays, in-service days or sickness.
If that sounds good so far and you meet the job description below (read on) – you may want to join your comrades in the SMBN!

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2020 – The Year We All Made History. 2021, The Year of Imminent Fun

We have all fought this year. We all have our own personal challenges and triumphs. The main thing is that we are here to tell the tale. We all know the dance isn’t over, but we all know it will be soon. Whatever you have survived for 9 months, you will survive for 3 more. The human timescale for rebirth and readjustment. A future that learns from the past..

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I should never have been on benefits, but lack of flexible working cost the tax payer thousands…


I was blissfully unaware of issues surrounding flexible working in my 20’s and early 30’s. As I was blissfully ignorant and judgemental around benefits. I had been quite happy for 20 years in my 9-5 (or more like 8-8), and short of wishing it was a four day week, so that I could get things done, like mortgage phone calls and fridge deliveries or electrician appointments etc, I wasn’t too troubled, as at least I could swim at 7am and visit the gym until 9pm.. it was when I became a single mum, I realised I was living this crazy world of presenteeism, that actually destroyed so many people!

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For our children, we work together, for change, for a better life. PARENTING SHOULD NOT CARRY A FINANCIAL PENALTY, We NEED to create tomorrow’s carers, nurses, shopkeepers, vets, cleaners, administrators ETC. We have to continue the life cycle! and we SHOULD not be dismissed for doing it!

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SMBN Awards 2021 – New Sponsor – Laura Callahan, Willow HR

When Laura joined the SMBN in 2019, I could not have imagined how supportive she would be. She has offered guidance, coaching, she always wants to find ways to support me and my other members, and I have a had a front row seat as she has expanded her own business, and supported so many families through such a difficult year. She not only won the Family Employer of the Year category 2020, she has now pledged her support for the 2021 Awards by sponsoring the same category. Membership fees are so low for the SMBN, at only £5pcm, and without any charitable status or Grant support, outside of my own income I am cannot express my gratitude for sponsors enough

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Award Entries now OPEN

The awards are FREE to enter and the event will be kept as cost. The event is early evening for parents AND children. We already have some great prizes and will continually look for support to make sure amazing memories are created for these children watching their amazing single mums!

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